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I knew I couldn't be the only one desperately seeking life and career strategies that spoke directly to my experience. Through my work, I began to hear stories from people of color and women expressing how they were burning out and barely keeping their heads above water. The narrative thread was clear: They were putting tremendous pressure on themselves to have it all—raise healthy families, have successful careers, pursue personal passions—because society told them they could, and should, do it all flawlessly and effortlessly. Aren't those rules a bit antiquated?

Whether seeking balance between career goals and quality family time or polishing up passion projects on weekends, you'll find customizable frameworks that will accelerate your growth while leaving the burnout behind. Let's get to thriving on our own terms—not default rules rigged for someone else's definitions of "making it." Call me a little sentimental here, but I think it's time we start living for those moments that make us genuinely smile, not just for the next accolade or promotion. And yes, you can have both—just make sure it's what you actually want. In Rewrite Your Rules, I promise to walk beside you with care, patience, and a little positive pushing while offering real tools (not those internet "hack your life" bits) I wish I had years ago!

Maybe you're where I was a decade ago, burning the midnight oil on a passion project, or maybe the midnight oil is burning you with infinite responsibilities. I want to show you there's another way, a smarter way that leads to the deliciousness, richness, and fullness that you've been craving. From career to love and everything in between, my life has been a series of big, beautiful breakthroughs, and I want you to experience the same.

Let's be real: The relentless pursuit of success often fails to deliver the balance and fulfillment we crave. In our quest for achievement, we become like heat-seeking missiles, locked on to targets while our personal well-being, relationships, and downtime fade into the background. Our minds fixate on the next milestone, promotion, or launch, while our bodies grow weary and our loved ones feel neglected. The very drive that propels us forward also narrows our field of view.

Even when we know we should come up for air, FOMO sets in—the fear that stepping off the treadmill means missing out on opportunities our peers will seize. But make no mistake, they too are likely running on fumes, secretly longing for relief, yet wondering if taking a break will irreparably set back their ambitions.

It doesn't help that many of us have tied our identities and self-worth to the realization of our goals. They've become so intertwined that slowing down, even briefly, leaves us grappling with feelings of failure and loss of purpose. We ask ourselves, "Who am I, if not the person chasing the next goal, actualizing my potential?" Even if we're worn out and depleted, at least we can avoid the frightening prospect of "wasted talent" by staying the course.

But eventually, the truth demands a reckoning: No one can operate at full throttle indefinitely without consequences. Health wanes, relationships suffer, creativity dulls, and motivation frays as this cycle intensifies. As goals are checked off, exhaustion creeps in alongside the next round of ambitions.

Eventually we must confront the glaring absence of boundaries in our drive for achievements. Any separation between professional demands and personal needs has gradually eroded. We've allowed our drive to dominate nearly all aspects of life, leaving little room for fuller dimensions like self- care, community, family, and pursuits unrelated to climbing ladders. Trying to perfect this delicate balance between ambition and harmony feels impossible when they operate as competing forces under old rules. But with understanding and intention, perhaps we can rewrite the rules.

This was the urgency I discovered from over ten years of pushing full throttle. I created this book to provide high-achieving people the essential elements they were missing: practical wisdom and strategies to achieve their dreams without succumbing to exhaustion. This book provides the blueprint to unite your ambition with fulfillment at every stage and harmonize your choices to result in living your best life. It answers the soul-searching question of how to sustainably achieve greatness on your own terms.

Consider this book your trusted companion—a road map, journal, and sounding board—as you navigate rewriting the rules to live life on your own terms, steeped in daily joy and purposeful living. Whenever you need fresh ideas, perspective, or encouragement, I've got your back.

WHY NOW?

Can I just go ahead and say it? The world feels like it's on fire. We find ourselves in a time of both pivotal global change and accelerated growth fueled by innovation.

During such periods of volatility, it is not always easy to chart a clear path forward that feels good, looks right, and lands you at your definition of success. An always-on sensationalist news cycle, 24/7 rage-inducing social media feeds, and an escalating cost of living can make even the most ambitious person want to bury their head in the sand until conditions improve. And, more often than not, we are burned out by the day-to-day. When we look up, months have passed without our having made real progress on our personal and professional goals or sticking to that new routine. No matter how hard you try, your goals, dreams, and measures of success don't feel any more within reach.